

So, he says that he was misquoted and that some of his remarks were taken out of context. I didn't hear the rest of what he said about me. It was humiliating, of course, especially as the audience guffawed in response to Tosh, their eyes following us as we made our way out of there. Then, he says, "Wouldn't it be funny if that girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her." and I, completely stunned and finding it hard to process what was happening but knowing i needed to get out of there, immediately nudged my friend, who was also completely stunned, and we high-tailed it out of there. So, what was his response? According to her blog entry:Īfter I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment. "I don't sit there while someone tells me how I should feel about something as profound and damaging as rape," she wrote. She could have just started booing and hissing, which anybody in the crowd has a right to do, but she brazenly refuted his assumptions about what was funny. They deserve what they get and more.)īut you could also argue that if a comedian is going to provoke his audience, he shouldn't be surprised if they push back. (There's a magnificent recording of Patton Oswalt eviscerating an ADHD heckler for ruining the quiet moment just before a payoff and another of him annihilating two despicable women blithely talking on a cell phone through his show. I don't know how far he went before she interrupted. She was openly challenging him on what he knew was dangerous ground. What she describes is heckling - but not the kind where someone in the crowd simply calls out the comic for not being funny. So I yelled out, "Actually, rape jokes are never funny!" So I didn't appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. I don't know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON'T find them funny and never have. Some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. A woman who, on a whim, went with a friend to see Dane Cook (no comment) at the Laugh Factory last Friday (July 6, 2012) also saw Tosh's set. 0," was in hot water for telling a "rape joke," the first thing I wanted to know was: What was the joke? That has to be where it all starts, don't you think? What did he actually say? So, when I heard that Daniel Tosh of Comedy Central's top-rated " Tosh. (See Patton Oswalt's remembrance of a bad performance in the early 1990s and the " Magical Black Man" who haunted and helped him.) But no matter what they say or do, they're still accountable for saying or doing it - and, more than ever before (thanks to blogs and social media and video smartphones), they are held publicly accountable. It's a semi-disciplined, stream-of-consciousness high-wire act without a net, and as any comic will tell you, they frequently fall. Seriously, what is a rape joke, why do you tell one, and how do you apologize for one? I empathize with comedians who get up on stage, alone, and develop new material, often without knowing where their minds and mouths are going to take them (or their audience).

Sarah Silverman, " Jesus Is Magic" (2005) which is so bittersweet for a Jewish girl." What's worse than finding a hair in your soup? Being raped.*
